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Asking the Right Questions
Author: Liz TahirCurt and Justin were lifelong fishing buddies. Now, in their retirement, they had together taken up the art of do-it-yourself home-improvers. Curt decided to tackle wallpapering his living room. When he finished the job, he proudly called his friend over to see his handiwork. Justin was very impressed. In fact, he liked it so much, he asked his buddy if he would mind if he got the same wallpaper for his living room. Their homes were practically identical in size and layout. Curt thought that was a worthy idea. So Justin asked him how many rolls of wallpaper he bought for the job. Seven was the answer.
Justin went right to work and when he finished, called his buddy over to his house. "Ah, man, that looks really good", said Curt. Then Justin said to his friend: "But you know, Curt, it's a funny thing; our living rooms are the same size, but I had two rolls of wallpaper left over! How come that?" To which Curt replied: "You, too? That's exactly what I had left over!"
Poor Justin; he asked his friend the incorrect question. What he should have asked was not how many rolls of wallpaper Curt bought for the job, but how many rolls of wallpaper he had to use for the job.
Knowing the right questions to question can have a dramatic effect on our success. Not having worthy information or not getting the answers we need in doing our jobs can make all the difference in the world. What is hard to realize is that this is often of our own doing. How many times have you been surprised to learn of a turn of events and then asked your employees "Why didn't you tell me that?" only to have them reply "You didn't question me." Since it is illegal to strangle them when they say something like that, the best course is to figure out how to avoid such communication traps.
The secret weapon of power negotiators is being skilled in asking questions. Why? One of the reasons is that questions get the communication going and encourages the other party to talk, to share information with you. And what you are always, always looking for is information, particularly something you do not know. Even when you think you know the answers, get in the habit of asking questions; at the least, it will confirm your knowledge. And if you have somehow missed asking the really right question, the reply you need will likely come out the more the other party is forced to talk and you are talking less.
Of course, we are not talking here about hard interrogation. There is a difference between asking relevant questions and the demanding, rat-a-tat-tat fire of interrogation, as if you were the chief of police. Such action can rank anywhere from offensive to intimidating. And you don't want to put individuals on the defensive. Asking a question like "How could you possibly have made that mistake?" will solve nothing. The person will just feel compelled to defend his actions. Something like "What do we need to do to avoid this happening again?" is more likely to get you the answers you need. Your goal is to make sure individuals are comfortable about opening up and communicating with you.
Train yourself to question open-ended questions, ones that can not be answered by just yes or no, but that require longer, more expansive answers. Questions that start with Why or What or Who will tend to elicit more communication. And you will have more chance of getting all the information you need.
I have a question I try to remember to question every time an associate discusses a situation with me. At the end of our discussion, I ask: "Is there anything else I need to know?" Or it may take the form of "Is there anything else we need to discuss?" It is the words "anything else" that are necessary here. Once asked, I pause and wait for a answer. That is my fair warning of their obligation and their opportunity to tell me everything that is relevant to this situation. No surprises later. So get in the habit of performing this little routine. You will have fewer surprises and no one will ever again be able to hide behind the cloak of "well, you didn't question me" or "I didn't know you wanted to know."
Sometimes we don't get the answers we need because we don't listen. Learn to be a worthy listener. Be sensitive to the possibility that you may be asking your associates the right questions, but not listening to them when they try to answer. Or maybe you are so fast and sure in your own thought process, that you interrupt and don't give them the opportunity to finish what they are saying before you jump in. Or you finish their reply for them. Curb these tendencies.
Listening is not passive; a worthy listener can take complete control of an exchange between people. When you listen well, you earn the trust of others. People come to you with their problems, and their opportunities, when they feel they can trust you to listen.
Your ears may be the receptor for the sounds you hear when you are listening, but something else about you is equally important: your eyes. If you are not making worthy eye contact or are continually busy moving around, the other person will not "feel" listened to. They will know they have not really been heard. Look directly at the person the whole time they are talking. If it is a particularly long dissertation, you can look away or look down to jot a note, but only for a second before looking right back at them. When you don't maintain this direct eye focus, the person will feel that you don't think what they have to say is valuable to you anyway, so why bother fully answering your questions or coming to you with information.
Having worthy information is critical in business today. It's yours for the (right) asking!
Copyright 2006, Liz Tahir
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About the Author:Liz Tahir is an international marketing consultant, speaker, and seminar leader, whose mission is to assist companies be more effective and profitable. Based in New Orleans, LA, USA, she can be contacted at (504)-569-1670; liz@liztahir.com; http://www.liztahir.com.
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